If you are a woman — and if you’re not, you’re more than welcome here, too — you have relationships of all shapes and sizes, closeness and casualness, complexity and simplicity. Whether you secretly feel lonely, consider yourself rotten at relationships, or feel like you have too many to ever grab a minute alone, I can guarantee that a significant portion of your mental energy is expended navigating and negotiating the connections you have with the people in your life.
I hope you’re the kind of human being who will smile at the stranger passing you in the grocery store, say good morning even when it’s raining outside and offer your seat on the subway to an elder. Congratulations! These are all tiny little relationships. They mean a lot to the recipient of your seemingly insignificant kindness and consideration.
These little moments are actually big moments, but it’s true that they don’t hold the long-lasting impact of the relationships that shape who you are and how you live your daily life. I have a feeling that all those deep and dynamic bonds aren’t always cut-and-dry. Sometimes they probably make you want to cut-and-run. Am I correct? If so, have no shame.
To come full circle, if you are a human being, you have difficult relationships. These provide opportunities to grow, learn and expand your self-awareness, as well as, of course, healing wounds whether they’re openly bleeding or protected by some hard-won scar tissue. To take the next step towards an emotionally healthier future, read one or all of the books below. These nine selections are written by women who know what they’re talking about and want to help you through your own personal relationships.