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Why did she stay? Why not ask why he did it? An intervention specialist discusses Ray Rice

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And the blame continues. Twitter and Facebook abound with it. Some claim with surety that they’d leave after the first minute a man touched them. Other wonder (with an air of superiority) why Janay Rice married Ray Rice in the first place (often accompanied with gold-digging, victim-blaming reasons). Many question her “role” in the situation — wondering why she stayed, sat next to him, tweeted support, etc. Everyone has an opinion about and questions about Janay Rice. Why, why, why. I pray someone is there for her, helping deflect the meanness and judgment. I worked in the field (working with batterers) for 10 years. I could write pages of “why women stay” — explaining how women become trapped by violent…

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