You were made to experience unconditional love and happiness without limits, not to suffer, struggle, and strive – and you are designed to be able to manifest this ideal life regardless of the things you’ve been through or the conditions you face.
We’ve been conditioned to believe in an outside-in model of life that says we are intrinsically lacking and have to attract, achieve, or fill ourselves up with something more in order to be enough. This has led us to develop all manner of coping and controlling mechanisms to get what we think we don’t have (and won’t survive without), or hold on to what we’re afraid someone else might take away.
The problem with this is two-fold: 1) No matter how much you get from this paradigm, you’ll never experience true fulfillment, safety, or security – you’ll never feel like you have enough or are enough, and you’ll always be afraid of losing it on some level; and 2) This perception of separation from your good, and the striving to get it, actually creates the resistance that is blocking its natural ability to emerge from within you – where it has been all along.
Love (and every other quality of a fulfilled life) is not something you can get or lose, it’s something you are, it’s your essential nature – like a fish in water, it’s the very atmosphere you live and move in.
That’s why you can be in love with someone.
What we often forget, however, is that to be in love with anyone, you have to first be in love yourself – just like you can’t splash around in a pool with someone if you’re not in the pool too!
Just as electricity is everywhere but does no good until you plug in and circulate it, the fact that love is within you is equally useless until you tap in and begin expressing it.
The same principle applies to any quality you want more of – love, peace, joy, beauty, abundance – if you want more in your life, you must let more of these qualities come out of you. Circulation is the key here.
As the law of circulation says: you can’t give what you don’t have, you can’t keep what you don’t give, and you can’t sustain what you don’t receive. It’s a complete circuit, a complete breath, and the essence of any sustainable system.
Wherever there is greater circulation, there is increased growth, expansion, power, and abundance. Where there is less circulation, or none (because of a broken circuit), there is stagnation, limitation, and ultimately the death of a system (the breakdown of a business, the breakup of a relationship, the burnout of the body).
So if you are currently waiting for more love (or anything) to come into your life, you must begin to generate more of it now. Start with yourself. Ask the question, “If I deeply loved myself, how would I hold myself today? How would I treat myself today (or in a particular job or relationship)? What would I do or stop doing?”
As the guidance bubbles up, take action on it. Every day. Even just a little bit. It won’t always be easy, but it’s very doable – and it’s much harder to live a life lacking in love and happiness, right?
Begin to activate this love within you (or whatever quality you’re working on) and begin giving it to others, unconditionally. It doesn’t matter if they’re loving to you – that has nothing to do with you – all that matters is how much love you are giving. That’s what determines the expression and expansion of love in your life!
Finally, keep your eyes and ears open for any expression of love coming back – and receive it. If someone smiles, smile back. If someone opens a door, acknowledge that act of kindness (if only in your own heart). If someone compliments you, let it in without explanation or deflection and don’t immediately compliment them back!
As you repair this circuit of love in your life, and increase its power, you will watch as more love emerges and claims a larger and larger platform for its expression – whether it’s new relationships, better relationships, increased recognition or reward, greater self-care, and many other possible manifestations of love.
This is your year of love, love without limits.
I can’t wait to see what emerges!
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