When we think of weddings we naturally think bride and groom. But, when it comes right down to it, a wedding encompasses so much more. Of course, weddings are about the happy couple, but they’re also a community celebration when family and friends gather to celebrate the joys of true love. (And to snicker when the ring bearer lies down for a nap in the middle of the ceremony.) Weddings are about two people pledging to be there for each other through all the bumps and turns in life’s road. They’re also an occasion for family to welcome a new member. And they even allow mothers and grandmothers, aunts and cousins to relive their own special day. In short, weddings are a big deal. No wonder they’re often accompanied by so much drama!
Or not. Her true-love path didn’t take the route I’d envisioned for her, and she wound up getting married at the courthouse. My motherly visions of that fancy wedding and reception vanished faster than wedding cake. Maybe I’d been hoping to repeat my own wedding extravaganza for my daughter, thinking she’d want what I’d wanted. Surprise! She turned out to be a young woman with a mind of her own. And that’s as it should be. I decided to look on the bright side. I didn’t have to worry about finding a mother-of-the-bride dress.
I sometimes wonder if our own adventure was lurking at the back of my mind when I wrote A Wedding on Primrose Street. I suspect there was a little of me (okay, maybe a lot) in the character of wedding planner Anne Richardson, who got carried away with making her daughter’s wedding perfect and started morphing into a “Momzilla,” taking over like mold. Actually, I had Momzillas running rampant all over the pages of this book, and while it deals with couples finding and celebrating true love, there’s a lot on the page about another kind of true love, that of a mother for her daughter. We all want what’s best for our children. What I learned early on was that my definition of what’s best might be different from theirs. And that’s okay.
Now it’s my son’s turn to get married, so come August we’ll be off to California for his wedding. It’s shaping up to be an extravagant affair…just my style! We’ll all be there to welcome the lovely bride-to-be into the family, but planning the welcome party is her privilege. I’ve got my mother-of-the-groom dress and intend to just show up and have fun and eat cake.
Oh, gosh, I hope they’re having a traditional cake! Uh-oh. I feel a Momzilla moment coming on.
Sheila Roberts is married and has three children. She lives on a lake in the Pacific Northwest. Her holiday perennial, On Strike for Christmas, was made into a movie for the Lifetime Movie Network and her novel The Nine Lives of Christmas was made into a movie for the Hallmark Channel. When she’s not writing songs, hanging out with her girlfriends or hitting the dance floor with her husband, she can be found writing about those things dear to women’s hearts: family, friends and chocolate.
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A Wedding on Primrose Street by Sheila Roberts (Mira, July 28)
The joy, the fun, the memories—the stress. As a wedding planner, Anne Richardson has seen mothers of the bride turn into Momzillas, and she’s determined not to do that when it’s her daughter’s turn to get married. But once Laney gets engaged, all bets are off. Anne becomes obsessed with giving Laney the perfect wedding she herself never had. And that wedding needs to be held in Icicle Falls at Primrose Haus, the perfect setting.
Roberta Gilbert, owner of Primrose Haus, has been hosting events at her charming Victorian for thirty years. She’s an expert on weddings, but not on mother-daughter relations. When her daughter, Daphne, comes home and decides to help with the business, the receptions become truly memorable—and not in a good way. Then there’s the added complication of Roberta’s gardener, who seems more interested in Daphne than he is in planting primroses…
Tying the knot is a business that has everyone tied up in knots!